NHS Lothian

Tips on managing change in our lives

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Your circumstances and the changes you may be facing will be unique.  These ideas may help you think about ways to increase your coping resources or reduce your demands.   The adjustments may only need to be temporary, while you reach a better balance.  In general, it’s best not to try too many changes at once.  Be prepared for it to take more time than you thought to feel balanced again.  


  • consider (temporarily) lowering your standards – focus on what you can do. 
  • sign up for services like prescription deliver 
  • when someone says, ‘is there anything I can do to help?’ practice saying ‘yes’ 
  •  when someone says, ‘do you mind helping me out with…?’ practice saying ‘no’   


  • remind yourself that difficult feelings are normal, 
  • try not to judge or criticise yourself 
  •  make an emotional first aid kit of things to look at, listen to, touch, smell and taste which help you to feel better on a bad day.  


  • make time for people or activities that bring you pleasure 
  • meet virtually with people by phone or video if you are not able to travel 
  • look for support groups for people with similar difficulties  


  • use a budgeting app to help you understand changes in your income and outgoings 
  • stay in contact with your manager/HR or occupational health service, if working 
  • use websites for price comparisons and purchasing advice.  
  • contact places such as the Citizen’s Advice Bureau or look at the Support section of this website for your local area 


  • visit a place where you have felt peaceful 
  • make contact with a spiritual leader or chaplain (many don’t ask that you have any particular faith) 
  • recognise other times in life when you have come through difficulties.   


It may be that you can make the adjustments you need to on your own, or with the support of people already in your life.  Many of the pages on this website link to organisations or resources that help with the kinds of challenges we encounter at times of change.  These exist because it is normal to need some outside support.  You may find them helpful. 

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